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- About the Practice
- Who Is Served
- Sexual Trauma
- Love
- Sex
- Approaches & Methods
- Where Alafiora Practices
- Legal & Privacy
- If Help Is Needed Now
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About the Practice
12 pages
- About This Practice: Everything about how Alafiora runs, in one place: what the practice is and what the name means, who the psychologist is, what sessions cost and how payment works, the policies that govern care, where sessions are held, and what happens between a first read of this site and a first session.
- Where Alafiora Practices: Alafiora offers virtual, on-location, and at-home therapy sessions throughout New Mexico and Indiana, the two states where Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett is currently a licensed psychologist.
- Clients Served Here: Five composite portraits of the people who find their way to Alafiora: survivors of complex sexual trauma, executives whose compulsive sexual behavior has outpaced their control, and those carrying love addiction, limerence, or an AI-influenced attachment.
- Concierge Psychology: The Alafiora concierge retainer covers up to twelve fifty-minute sessions a month, priority scheduling, and structured care coordination for individuals whose lives require more access than a single weekly session was built to hold.
- FAQs: Answers from Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, on how therapy at Alafiora actually works: fees, insurance, licensed states, session format, confidentiality, diagnosis, and what happens between the first conversation and the first session.
- Getting Started: A complete walkthrough of how care at Alafiora begins, from the first read-through to the consultation, the intake session, ongoing treatment, and how care eventually ends.
- Good Faith Estimate (GFE): Under the federal No Surprises Act, every self-pay client has the right to a written Good Faith Estimate of therapy costs before care begins.
- Meet the Psychologist, Dr. Esther: Meet Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist and the founder of Alafiora, treating love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma as one interconnected system.
- Payment Options: How payment works at a private-pay psychology practice: accepted payment methods, superbills for out-of-network reimbursement, HSA/FSA/HRA guidance, single-case agreements, victim compensation and trauma funds, lien therapy, sliding-scale spots, and what to do if none of these fit.
- Practice Policies: Alafiora's practice policies cover cancellation and rescheduling, the four-in-four continuity policy, late arrivals, between-session communication, telehealth requirements, records and release-of-information terms, and how a therapy or psychologist relationship ends when it must.
- Rates and Fees: Session rates for private-pay therapy with a licensed psychologist: intake, standard, extended, and clarity sessions, plus mileage-based, all-day, or fixed-package pricing for on-location and home-based care across New Mexico and Indiana.
- The Practice: Alafiora is a boutique private-pay psychology practice treating love obsession and love addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma as one connected system.
Who Is Served
16 pages
- Who Alafiora Works With: The same pattern behaves differently depending on whose life it is running through.
- Adult Entertainment Professionals: Sex workers, cam models, dancers, and performers carrying a fixation on one regular that puts the job at risk, a private compulsion the work never caused, or an assault a club dismissed as part of the job.
- Adult Men: For men whose partner just found something first, whose "protectiveness" became monitoring he never chose, or whose body still reacts to a memory no one ever taught him he was allowed to name.
- Adult Women: Adult women carrying a bond to a partner they cannot make themselves leave, compulsive sexual behavior mistaken for just being bad at boundaries, or sexual trauma from inside a marriage no one thought to ask about.
- Busy and High-Stress Professionals: For the physician with twenty minutes between patients, the associate attorney billing ninety hours a week, and the small business owner with no coverage for a single day off.
- College Students: For the student whose undefined thing with a floormate has taken over a dorm floor, the one whose hookup pattern nobody treats as a problem, and the one still piecing together a party from months ago.
- Faith & Purity Culture: For the ones still asking someone else's permission before trusting their own read on a person, whose body learned no version of touch except threat, or whose disclosure came back to them re-written as a sin.
- First Responders: For the officer, firefighter, paramedic, and dispatcher who tell the department everything is fine.
- Kink, CNM & Polyamory: For the one tracking a metamour's schedule instead of a partner's, the one who cannot remember the last scene where a real no was possible, or the one whose body still braces at the word "after." Kink-aware, poly-friendly therapy built around exactly these patterns.
- Leaders and Executives: For the leaders whose board optics turn a private fixation into a disclosure question, the executives whose travel schedule doubles as concealment, and the ones whose composure has kept an earlier history from ever being named.
- LGBTQIA+: For LGBTQIA+ clients whose small dating pool intensifies attachment, whose compulsive sexual patterns run through queer apps and religious shame, or whose trauma disclosure risks confirming someone else's theory.
- Military-Connected Care: For the service member who told himself a relationship at home was paused for a deployment, the husband keeping one account for his wife and another for his chain of command, and the veteran whose composure was trained by the institution that failed him.
- Moral Injury & Self-Betrayal: For the ones horrified by their own lying during an out-of-control cycle of love addiction or compulsive sexual behavior, never making peace with it, always meaning to stop.
- People in the Public Eye: For the actress vetting a new partner's motives, the athlete a stranger recognized in a hotel lobby three states from home, and the anchor whose face was placed onto a video she never filmed.
- Teen Boys: For the boy checking a shared server more times than he could count some days, the one whose search history keeps needing more to feel anything, and the one who sent a single photo and hasn't slept the same since.
- Teen Girls: For the girl checking who viewed her story forty times before lunch, the one who won't post a photo until a filter fixes what she's started seeing wrong in the mirror, and the one still flinching at a hallway no one else at school thinks twice about.
Sexual Trauma
23 pages
- Sexual Trauma Overview: Sexual trauma takes many forms: assault by a stranger, harm inside a marriage, childhood abuse only now being understood, trafficking, corrective violence, and more.
- Abuse by a Trusted Individual in Power: A physician, therapist, clergy member, coach, or mentor used the exact trust their role required to violate consent instead, sometimes through an exam or a moment during labor itself.
- Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse: Memory from childhood sexual abuse often comes back in pieces, out of order, and that does not make it less true.
- Ambient Sexualized Environments: No single incident, no one name to point to, only years of crude jokes, propositions, and comments a workplace, school, or team let happen around a person every single day without consequence.
- Arousal Nonconcordance & Body Betrayal: A body can lubricate, form an erection, or reach orgasm during an assault while the person it belongs to wants none of it.
- Corrective Rape & Identity-Targeted Violence: Corrective rape targets a survivor's actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity, meant to punish or "fix" who they are, whether one perpetrator was involved or several.
- Digital & Tech-Facilitated Sexual Violence: Non-consensual intimate images, sextortion, AI-generated deepfakes, and online sexual stalking violate sexual privacy without any physical contact, and the content's permanence can make the injury feel like it never actually ends.
- Early, Unwanted & Coercive Sexual Exposure: Being shown pornography too young, watching a parent's sex life play out unshielded, or being handed sexual content as a setup for something worse: no contact occurred, and it still counts.
- Forced, Restrained & Threat-Based Assault: Forced sexual assault happens when one person alone uses physical weight, restraint, a weapon, or a spoken threat to stop resistance.
- Gang & Group Rape, Multiple-Perpetrator Assault: Gang rape and multiple-perpetrator sexual assault happen at parties, in coordinated assaults, in rooms where someone stood by and never touched anyone, and in rooms where the one person already trusted arranged it.
- Grooming & Psychological Coercion: Grooming unfolds as a gradual, deliberate process built from trust, gifts, isolation, and shared secrets, designed so no single boundary crossed ever feels like a clear violation while it happens, to a child or an adult.
- Incest & Intrafamilial Sexual Abuse: A parent or a sibling, the exact person a child is supposed to love, depend on, and stay loyal to, caused the harm, with no clean exit the way there might be from a stranger or an institution.
- Intergenerational Family Normalization of Sexual Abuse: Some families have an unspoken rule about a specific uncle, father, or family friend, and it was never called abuse, only a joke, a warning, a thing managed around rather than confronted.
- Narcissistic Sexual Abuse: Sex used as reward and punishment inside an idealization-devaluation cycle, and a partner's own memory of what their body agreed to argued with and rewritten by the person who was there.
- Organized, Cult & Ritualistic Sexual Abuse: More than one person caused the harm, inside a group that called itself a family, a congregation, or something closer than either, and some of what happened was staged as ceremony.
- Sex Trafficking & Sexual Slavery: For survivors now out of a trafficking situation, including recruitment that began as a relationship, care does not require an open police report, a pending case, or a story told in order.
- Sexual Assault & Rape: Sexual assault happens between strangers, on third dates, and inside marriages that continue for years afterward.
- Sexual Trauma Reenactment: Wanting it rough after an assault does not automatically mean the trauma is doing the choosing, and escalating risk that traces back to a survivor's own history is not proof of being broken.
- Spousal & Intimate Partner Sexual Violence: A marriage or long relationship can make coerced sex feel unnameable, since no one grabbed anything and the same person also does the school run.
- Stealthing, Reproductive Coercion & Consent Violations: A yes to the encounter is not a yes to everything inside it, whether that means a condom secretly removed, a lie about birth control, or a declined act done anyway mid-act.
- Substance-Facilitated & Incapacitated Assault: Incapacitated sexual assault happens after voluntary drinking, after a drink altered without knowledge, and inside relationships where a partner waits for impairment to act.
- Transactional & Dependency-Based Sexual Coercion: When rent, a paycheck, or a place to stay depends on staying sexually available, whether the leverage is a landlord, a boss, or someone with no formal role at all, the coercion becomes nearly impossible to name.
- Witnessing Sexual Violence: Witnessing direct sexual violence, hearing it through a wall, watching it happen to a friend, watching a stranger dragged into an alley, is a firsthand traumatic event, not a lesser or secondhand one.
Love
11 pages
- Love Domain Overview: Love obsession and love addiction take many forms: compulsive checking, involuntary fixation, a hidden connection, attachment to a caregiver, and increasingly, an AI.
- Attachment to Authority Figures & Caregiving Professionals: Feeling unusually attached to a therapist, doctor, teacher, or mentor who truly listens is common, and confusing once it deepens past ordinary trust.
- Digital Era Attachments: Breadcrumbing keeps hope alive on almost nothing: a story like, a reply after eleven days, warmth with no plan attached to it.
- Erotomania & Compulsive Obsessive Attachment: Erotomania is the fixed, delusional belief that another person, often someone with more visibility or authority, is secretly already in love, driving persistent pursuit undeterred by rejection.
- Fantasy Attachments: Fantasy attachment can mean loving a fictional character, a real, named orientation with a genuine community, or an imagined future built around someone who barely knows a person exists.
- Limerence: Limerence is the involuntary, intrusive-thought fixation on one person, what many call love obsession or love addiction: a mind that keeps hoping for reciprocation long after the evidence has run out.
- Love Addiction & Obsessive Love: Love addiction, what many call love obsession, can feel like withdrawal with no substance involved: canceled plans on the chance he might call, a mind that will not stop even when it brings no pleasure.
- Overinvestment in Early Relationships: Overinvestment in early relationships often looks like moving in within weeks, merging finances or identities before trust has caught up, and only recognizing the ignored red flags later.
- Parasocial Relationships: Some viewers know a streamer's whole life, the breakup and the diagnosis taken live on air, and the streamer never learns they exist.
- Secret Emotional Affairs & Hidden Connections: A secret emotional affair usually comes with its own defense: nothing physical happened.
- Synthetic Partners: Some people train a companion app on a real person's own texts and voicemails until it answers exactly right.
Sex
10 pages
- Sex Domain Overview: Compulsive sexual behavior, sex anxiety, a chosen affair, and a compulsive cycle that has nothing to do with any one affair partner can look alike from the outside.
- Chronic Infidelity: Chronic infidelity is usually a matter of choice: entitlement, poor boundaries, or an actual absence of commitment kept alive alongside a marriage, not an urge that cannot be controlled.
- Commercial Sex Compulsion: Commercial sex compulsion is a loss-of-control pattern built around paying for sex, erotic massage, or phone sex, repeated despite real financial and relational cost.
- Compulsive Sexual Behavior & Hypersexuality: Compulsive sexual behavior, sometimes named sex addiction or hypersexuality, often runs on anticipation more than the act itself: hours arranging an encounter that delivers less relief each time.
- Cybersex Addiction & Digital Hypersexuality: Cybersex addiction, or digital hypersexuality, never has to leave a screen: webcam performers, a second life inside VR roleplay, AI-generated sexual content built to exact specification.
- Escapist Solitary Compulsion: Escapist solitary compulsion centers on customized dolls or companion devices, hours of maintenance rituals no one else ever sees, and choosing an object's total predictability over the risk a real relationship carries.
- Paraphilic Hypersexuality: Paraphilic hypersexuality is a compulsive pattern organized around one specific, often unconventional arousal template, spending that climbs into the thousands, legal and financial risk building underneath it.
- Sex Anxiety & Sexual Avoidance: Sex anxiety often shows up as a body that tenses, shuts down, or refuses to cooperate even when the wanting is real, followed by excuses rehearsed in advance to explain why not tonight.
- Sexual Acting Out: Sexual acting out is a compulsive cycle of stress, shame, and repeat, spanning compulsive pornography, anonymous hookups, paid encounters, and cybersex, escalating toward risk itself once safety stops working.
- Sexual Intrusion & Boundary Blur: Sexual intrusion and boundary blur is a compulsive pull to inject sexual content into relationships that were never sexual, at work, with friends, or with acquaintances, driven by erotic validation-seeking instead of genuine desire.
Approaches & Methods
15 pages
- How Alafiora Works: What actually happens in the room, method by method: depth-oriented and psychodynamic work, attachment and emotion-focused technique, trauma-focused and evidence-based practice, harm reduction, and care that makes room for faith, culture, and identity.
- Attachment-Centered Care: What attachment-centered therapy actually means, grounded in Mikulincer and Shaver's adult attachment research, and how Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, works with the relational templates and felt security underneath love addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma.
- Consent-Oriented Care: What consent-oriented therapy actually means: ongoing, collaborative informed consent as the operating structure of the relationship itself, not a one-time intake form.
- Culturally Attuned & Identity-Affirming Care: How Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, lets race, class, political conviction, reproductive history, generational family structure, and chosen family shape therapy, grounded in the APA's own Multicultural Guidelines rather than a single assumed version of any client's identity.
- Depth-Oriented Care: What depth-oriented therapy actually means, the research behind treating underlying patterns rather than symptoms alone, and how licensed psychologist Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett applies this umbrella approach to love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma across every stage of care.
- Dream Analysis: How Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, works with dream material in depth-oriented therapy, and the honest, important difference between classical dream analysis and Imagery Rehearsal Therapy, the specific, research-backed treatment for recurring trauma nightmares.
- Emotion-Focused Work: What emotion-focused therapy actually means, grounded in Leslie Greenberg's individual model, not couples-based EFT, and how Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, works with the emotion underneath love addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, and complex sexual trauma in session.
- Evidence-Based Practice: What "evidence-based therapy" actually means, according to the American Psychological Association, and how Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, applies validated techniques within a depth-oriented, individualized approach rather than a fixed, one-size-fits-all treatment protocol.
- Faith-Based Counseling & Therapy: How Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, welcomes prayer, scripture, and organized religious practice into clinical work for clients whose faith is built around a specific tradition, sacred text, and community, while remaining a psychologist rather than a religious authority.
- Harm Reduction: What harm reduction actually means in therapy for compulsive sexual behavior: the client, not a fixed abstinence mandate, chooses the treatment goal.
- Mentalization-Based Therapy: What mentalization-based therapy actually means, grounded in Fonagy, Bateman, and Allen's research, and how Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, works with the damaged capacity to read one's own mind and another's underneath love addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, and trauma.
- Psychodynamic Therapy: What psychodynamic therapy actually is, the specific research behind its documented effect sizes, and how licensed psychologist Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett applies unconscious-conflict and developmental-history work to love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma in session.
- Sex Therapy: How Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, treats compulsive sexual behavior, sex addiction, hypersexuality, and sex anxiety, and the specific, honest distinction between her doctoral-level clinical training and the separate AASECT sex therapist credential she does not hold.
- Spiritual Counseling & Therapy: How Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, engages clinically with tarot, energy work, herbal practice, and a felt connection to the natural world, with the same seriousness given to organized religious belief, and adapts session format to fit what actually feels right for a client.
- Trauma-Focused Care: What trauma-focused and trauma-specialized therapy actually means, including Cognitive Processing Therapy and Prolonged Exposure's evidence base, and how Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, a licensed psychologist, draws on trauma-specialized technique within a depth-oriented, individualized practice.
Where Alafiora Practices
6 pages
- Albuquerque: Confidential therapy for love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma, serving Albuquerque, Corrales, and Los Ranchos de Albuquerque.
- Indianapolis: A licensed psychologist serving Indianapolis, Carmel, Zionsville, Meridian Hills, and Geist Reservoir.
- Los Alamos: Confidential therapy for love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma, serving Los Alamos and White Rock.
- Michigan City: A licensed psychologist serving Michigan City, Long Beach, and Beverly Shores.
- Santa Fe: Confidential therapy for love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma, serving Santa Fe, Las Campanas, Tesuque, and Eldorado.
- South Bend: A licensed psychologist serving South Bend, Notre Dame, and Granger.
Legal & Privacy
8 pages
- Legal and Privacy: Every legal and privacy document for Alafiora LLC in one place: the HIPAA Notice of Privacy Practices, the website privacy policy, the terms of use, the disclaimer, the accessibility statement, the verified directory listings, and where to bring a formal privacy or compliance request.
- Accessibility Statement: Alafiora's accessibility statement: conformance status against WCAG 2.1 Level AA, the measures taken to support access, known limitations, compatible environments, and how to report a barrier and what happens when you do.
- Compliance Contact Form: Where to bring a formal privacy or compliance matter to Alafiora LLC: requests to access, correct, or delete records, HIPAA concerns, opt-outs, accessibility barriers, and what happens after a request is submitted.
- Disclaimer: The website disclaimer for Alafiora LLC: what the content on this site is and is not, the absence of any clinical relationship arising from use of the site, geographic limits on services, crisis resources, and contact information.
- Notice of Privacy Practices: The HIPAA Notice of Privacy Practices for Alafiora LLC: how Protected Health Information is used and disclosed, the special protections covering psychotherapy notes, the rights every client holds over their own record, and how to file a complaint.
- Privacy Policy: The website privacy policy for Alafiora LLC: what information the site collects, how it is used and shared, what private pay means for a client's privacy, the limits of confidentiality, and the rights available under HIPAA, GDPR, CCPA, and applicable state law.
- Terms & Conditions: The terms governing access to and use of the Alafiora website: acceptance, the absence of any clinical relationship, lawful use, intellectual property, user submissions, liability, dispute resolution, and governing law.
- Verified Listings: The directories and clinical platforms where Alafiora maintains a verified listing, each reflecting current information about Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett's licensure, specialties, and practice details.
If Help Is Needed Now
1 page
- Crisis Resources: Immediate crisis resources including the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline, the National Domestic Violence Hotline, the National Human Trafficking Hotline, the Trevor Project, Childhelp, SAMHSA, and general mental health guidance from the CDC.
The Psychologist a Client Actually Sees
Every session at Alafiora is held by one licensed psychologist
Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett is the founder and sole practitioner of Alafiora. There are no associates, no rotating providers, and no case handoffs: the person who reads a client's history in the first session is the same person still holding it two years later. She is licensed in New Mexico and Indiana, with additional state licensure underway.
Her training is doctoral-level, which typically extends several years beyond a master's-level license in assessment, diagnosis, and the treatment of complex, overlapping presentations. She keeps a deliberately small caseload so that depth is possible, participates in ongoing peer consultation and clinical training, and maintains her own personal therapy.
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