Castle Pines & Lone Tree Psychologist for Love Obsession, Compulsive Sexual Behavior & Sexual Trauma

Held entirely by video, wherever in Colorado a client happens to be sitting.

What This Page Covers Six sections. Most take three minutes or less to read; the longest takes eight.

1. A County Built for People Who Just Arrived: Confidential Telehealth Therapist for Castle Pines & Lone Tree
2. Care at Alafiora™: Licensed Psychologist Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, Colorado Telehealth Practice
3. Serving Castle Pines and the Surrounding Communities: Telehealth Coverage Area: Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch, Castle Rock & Parker
4. What Some People May Describe: Composite Reflections From Castle Pines & Lone Tree
5. What Therapy at Alafiora™ Addresses: Confidential Telehealth for Douglas County: How Care Is Structured With a Private-Pay Psychologist
6. Common Questions About Therapy in Castle Pines: Castle Pines Psychologist FAQ: Love Addiction, Sex Addiction & Sexual Trauma Treatment

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Douglas County is family-oriented and close-knit enough, for all its newness, that a referral still travels the way it would in a much smaller town. A name offered here tends to come from a fellow sideline parent, a colleague at the same firm, or a new-resident welcome contact who has recommended someone entirely outside the local network. A name that arrives that way brings all of it along.

Alafiora™ sits outside that network by design, and for a lot of clients here, it's also simply the first name they've had access to at all. Dr. Lapite-Garrett is licensed in Colorado, with a credential status of active, telehealth-only under SB24-141, which permits care by video only; the license does not authorize a Colorado office or any in-person service anywhere in the state, and this page describes only what that license actually allows. Care reaches Castle Pines, Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch, Castle Rock, and Parker entirely by video, which means beginning does not require a car parked somewhere a fellow parent or a new neighbor would notice it, and does not depend on already having a local referral network to draw from.

Every personal account described on this page is fiction. Dr. Lapite-Garrett writes them from her own clinical knowledge and expertise. AI helps shape the first draft, and Dr. Lapite-Garrett reviews and approves every word before it is shared. The individuals, the histories, and the sequences of events here, including those written as he or she and including any pattern shown escalating over time, are not drawn from any current or former client of this practice, and no client information of any kind was used to make them. No one's trajectory appears on this page. What appears is what these psychological phenomena may look like when they occur.

A County Built for People Who Just Arrived

Confidential Telehealth Therapist for Castle Pines & Lone Tree

A Douglas County Client Community

Castle Pines Village grew up around two Jack Nicklaus-designed golf courses starting in 1981, a gated, three-thousand-acre community whose private club spent two decades hosting a PGA Tour event known for its distinctive scoring format and its hand-spun milkshakes as much as for the golf itself. A few miles north, Lone Tree tells almost the opposite story: incorporated in 1995 from a handful of households, it grew fast enough to become home to Colorado's largest shopping mall and, more recently, a major financial services company's corporate campus, a development that by itself reshaped the whole city's tax base and brought a wave of relocating employees with it. Douglas County as a whole is one of the wealthiest counties in the entire country, and one of its fastest growing, and a large share of that growth has arrived specifically from California and Texas, drawn by the tax climate, the schools, and a lower cost of living than the coasts they left behind.

What that growth has built is a newer kind of wealth than either of Alafiora™'s other two Colorado markets carries: relocated corporate and business-owner money, arriving fast enough that Castle Pines Village runs a formal quarterly welcome reception for its newest residents because there are reliably enough of them to justify one. Highlands Ranch, the county's largest community, runs almost entirely on youth sports and school calendars, and Douglas County's own school district consistently ranks among the strongest in the state, which is precisely why so many of these families chose it in the first place. What nobody quite plans for is how long it actually takes to rebuild a real support system in a new place, even a genuinely welcoming one.

The Private Side of a Newly Built Life

Love Obsession, Compulsive Sexual Behavior & Sexual Trauma Among Castle Pines & Lone Tree's Relocated Executive and Family Community

A county built this specifically around people who arrived recently runs on an isolation most neighbors never see, even inside homes that look, from the outside, like they have absolutely everything. Moving somewhere new for a better school district or a corporate transfer does not automatically bring along the people who used to know a person well enough to notice when something was wrong.

Some women in this community may have relocated from California eighteen months or two years ago when a spouse's role moved to one of the county's larger corporate campuses, and may spend most weekday evenings on the sideline at a son's football practice in a town where she genuinely doesn't have a single friend she'd call at midnight yet. Another sideline parent becomes the exception: maybe two messages a week about practice schedules, ordinary enough that it wouldn't register to anyone watching. What would register, if anyone were watching closely, is the handful of texts reread until she's memorized his exact sign-off, or the drive home from practice spent building an entire alternate version of her own life where moving here had meant meeting him rather than just relocating, whole conversations invented that never took place. She starts arriving to games a few minutes early, telling herself it's only about the parking or the seating. The version of events she's built doesn't survive one particular Friday night, watching him lean toward his own wife in the stands with an ease no early arrival or memorized text had ever produced for her.

A related pattern in this community is rooted in the demanding relocation package and unfamiliar new authority that come with running a major function at a company that recently moved its headquarters here. A man taking on a senior finance role at a firm's newer Colorado campus, still building a team that hasn't found its footing in a new city any more than he has, is a familiar enough profile. What happens underneath the profile: a habit of arranging paid encounters most weeks through an app, on a corporate card his own new team's expense process hasn't yet learned to scrutinize. The isolating first months of the move produced an occasional solo hour with pornography; a year in, that's become a first paid encounter near his own office, then two or three a month, running through an account that goes unquestioned simply because the new team's processes haven't caught up yet. Surrounded most Monday mornings by an office still furnished with half-unpacked boxes, he decides this week is the last one and means it, until the week ends and it wasn't. His own firm's finance team eventually flags the irregular expensing once their new-market processes catch up, and the conversation reaches his regional leadership before it reaches his wife. Establishing new authority in an unfamiliar market is exactly the weight Leaders and Executives speaks to. What Moral Injury and Self-Betrayal names underneath it is the promise he means completely every Monday and still doesn't keep by Friday, a wound that stands on its own regardless of the pattern that keeps causing it.

Still others throughout Castle Pines and Lone Tree may carry harm that a move to Colorado has made harder to manage rather than easier. A woman whose therapy back home was stable and effective, built over years with a provider she trusted completely before her family relocated here for the schools, may find that the specific tone of teasing at a school event sends her heart rate up in a way she has never fully explained to anyone in her new life. She may have assumed, when the move happened, that finding a new therapist here would be simple, and may have instead spent a year and a half telling herself she was managing fine without one, partly because everyone around her at drop-off and at games seems to have this new life figured out already and she has never found the right moment to admit she doesn't. What she may eventually trace the resurfacing back to is a betrayal from years before the move, something the therapy she left behind had genuinely helped her carry, work that simply stopped the day the moving truck pulled away and never quite restarted.

Call or text 988 if this is close enough to say out loud but nothing here has become an emergency yet; it answers around the clock, in English and Spanish, and its chat at 988lifeline.org works if a call isn't something you can take in a house that isn't fully unpacked yet. The practice's list of crisis lines covers sexual assault, domestic violence, and trafficking as their own separate numbers, each with its own line. If you are in danger right now, 911 reaches Douglas County dispatch the same way it would anywhere else in Colorado.

A Friday night game and a Monday morning meeting are not where any of this surfaces: the memorized text from the sideline, the promise that didn't outlast the week, the year and a half of insisting she was fine without the therapy she'd lost. Alafiora™ exists specifically for the conversation those settings never get, held by a psychologist with no relationship to her outside of it.

Care at Alafiora™

Licensed Psychologist Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett, Colorado Telehealth Practice

Nobody is assigned here. The same psychologist takes the first call and every hour after it, so nothing has to be told twice to somebody new. Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett founded Alafiora™ as a boutique psychological practice, and she trained in psychodynamic and attachment-based approaches to complex trauma, love obsession, and compulsive sexual behavior. She works from the premise that behavior, however distressing, serves a function, and that lasting change begins with understanding that function before attempting to remove it.

Individuals working through the aftermath of sexual assault, betrayal, or cumulative violation often begin with Understanding Sexual Trauma & Its Many Forms, where pacing and consent shape every part of the process. Those caught in patterns of obsessive longing, fixation, or fantasy frequently find language for their experience in Understanding Love Obsession, Love Addiction & Attachment's Many Forms. Individuals whose relationship to sexual behavior has become compulsive, secretive, or beyond their own control are welcomed, without judgment, into the work described in Understanding Compulsive Sexual Behavior, Sex Anxiety & Their Many Forms. Many clients move fluidly between these areas, since attachment, trauma, and compulsion are rarely separate experiences in practice. Among the leaders and executives establishing new authority at recently relocated firms, and the families who moved to Douglas County for its schools and are still rebuilding a support system to match, these three domains tend to arrive together often enough that treating them separately would miss most of what is actually happening.

How Care Is Delivered

Confidential Video Therapy for Clients in Castle Pines, Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch & Castle Rock

Dr. Lapite-Garrett is licensed in Colorado, with a credential status of active, telehealth-only, which authorizes care to Colorado residents entirely by video. There is no Colorado office and no in-person option anywhere in the state, since the license permits video care only. Sessions are held through a HIPAA-compliant platform backed by a signed business associate agreement, at an ordinary hour's length or as an extended session for anyone who needs longer than one, from wherever a confidential connection can be maintained: a home office in a still half-unpacked house, a car after school pickup, a quiet room during a lunch break at a new office. For clients who arrived here without a local therapist and haven't known where to start looking for one, a video-only model removes that barrier entirely.

Why Is Care in Colorado Video Only, Rather Than On Location Like Some of Alafiora™'s Other Markets?

For a family that relocated here without an existing local referral network, video-only care removes a barrier before it ever forms: nothing to wait on, no local reputation to accumulate first. That happens to align with what Colorado's law actually permits. SB24-141 created a telehealth-only credential category for Colorado, and the license Dr. Lapite-Garrett holds under it authorizes video care and nothing else in the state; full, on-location-eligible licensure exists for her only in Indiana and New Mexico. This page states that boundary as it stands rather than as something in transition.

What Becomes Possible

Life After Love Addiction, Sex Addiction & Sexual Trauma Treatment in Castle Pines & Lone Tree

What changes, further along, tends to be modest and specific: a sideline seat that stops requiring a five-minute head start, a Monday-morning promise that finally survives the week, and a piece of work from an old life that finally gets to continue rather than stay interrupted. Getting to any one of the three usually takes longer than a person expects going in, and that timeline is what this practice is built around.

Serving Castle Pines and the Surrounding Communities

Telehealth Coverage Area: Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch, Castle Rock & Parker

Care reaches each of the communities below by video only, on identical clinical terms; what follows are the practical differences in how each client tends to use it.

Castle Pines. For someone on a property inside or near the gated Village, the first practical question is usually finding an hour where household staff or a visiting contractor won't be present for a video call, and that gets settled at the consultation.

Lone Tree. Video reaches families near the corporate corridor the same way, at whatever hour fits around a workday still settling into a new routine.

Highlands Ranch. Care reaches the county's largest community on the same terms, typically scheduled around a youth sports and school calendar that runs most of the year.

Castle Rock & Parker. South and east of Lone Tree, video care reaches these communities exactly as it reaches Castle Pines itself, with no difference in format or fee.

Does Care Reach Clients Only While They're Physically in Castle Pines, or Anywhere in Colorado?

Anywhere in Colorado. The license is statewide, so the only real requirement is that the client be physically located somewhere in Colorado at the time of the session; the communities named above are simply the ones clients here name most often.

The facts most first inquiries ask about, gathered in one place:

What Some People May Describe

Composite Reflections From Castle Pines & Lone Tree

The reflections below are fiction. Dr. Lapite-Garrett writes them from her own clinical knowledge and expertise. AI produces a rough draft, and she reviews and personally approves every word that stays. They are not quotations from clients of this practice, whose privacy is protected absolutely, and no client information of any kind was used to make them. They appear here so that anyone who recognizes themselves, whoever they are, does not have to arrive at care carrying an experience they have never once seen written down.

How some may describe this experience:

"i show up a few minutes early to every game so i end up standing near him and tell myself it's just for a better spot. i have his exact text sign-off memorized. i have entire conversations with him in my head on the drive home from practice, a whole version where moving here meant meeting him, none of which actually happened. watched him lean into his own wife in the stands friday night like it was nothing and realized he's never once looked at me like that. we moved here two years ago and i still don't have a single friend i'd call at midnight, and i genuinely don't know what i was building on a football sideline"

"tell myself the same thing every monday walking into an office that still has boxes in it, that this week is the last one, i mean it this time. i believe it completely until the week's over. our finance team's process finally caught up and flagged a pattern on my card and it's going to regional leadership before it's going to my wife. it's been actual hotel rooms near my own office for a while now, two or three a month, and i stopped using protection over a year ago and never told a single person that part. i took this role to build something new here and never once got flagged for anything until now"

"my old therapist knew everything, all of it, and actually helped, and then we moved and it just stopped. i've been telling myself i'm managing fine for a year and a half because everyone around me at drop off seems to have this figured out already. something happened at a school thing last month, just a tone of voice, and my whole body went somewhere else in front of everyone. i don't even know where to start looking for someone new here"

Noticing a pattern while reading is not the same thing as being ready to talk about it, and the second doesn't have to wait for the first to feel resolved. Most of this gets handled carefully long before anyone else notices, often by someone still working out who they even are in a brand new place. Dr. Esther Lapite-Garrett founded Alafiora™ specifically to treat love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma together instead of as three separate referrals, and sees individuals throughout Castle Pines, Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch, and Castle Rock on that basis, regardless of how recently any of them arrived.

What Therapy at Alafiora™ Addresses

Confidential Telehealth for Douglas County: How Care Is Structured With a Private-Pay Psychologist

What an early session actually contains is a week in detail: the text that got reread on the sideline, and the early arrival that got engineered around it. For a client still establishing a name or a reputation in a brand new place, the question of what does and does not leave the room gets answered out loud in the first hour, before any history is asked for. A clinical intake runs $475 for the full eighty minutes, and ongoing sessions settle into a standard fifty-minute rate of $300, with every other format detailed on Rates and Fees.

Dr. Lapite-Garrett names each mechanism out loud rather than treating it as a lapse in discipline. Obsessive checking and rereading get named as love obsession and love addiction, relational dependency, and, where a fixation attaches to one specific individual rather than to being in love generally, person addiction. Compulsive sexual behavior gets named as loss of control and mounting cost, often working as a way to regulate the isolation and pressure of establishing a new life in an unfamiliar place, and never as a verdict on what someone actually wants for their own life, since Alafiora™ is sex positive, sex informed, and sex work affirming throughout. A history of assault, betrayal, or accumulated harm gets named as sexual trauma, whether that is a single acute incident, developmental trauma carried from the years the nervous system was still forming, the relational kind that happened inside a bond a person depended on, or betrayal trauma where the dependence itself suppressed the recognition, and it is worked with at the client's own pace, including for clients picking up work that a prior therapist elsewhere had already begun.

Individuals throughout this community bring this work to Alafiora™ from a genuinely wide range of circumstances: leaders and executives establishing new authority at recently relocated companies, families who moved here specifically for the schools and are still building a local support system to match, and residents whose prior therapy elsewhere was interrupted by the move itself and never quite picked back up. What concealment costs depends on what a person has to lose, and in a community this new, where reputation is often still being built rather than already established, that cost can be just as high as it would be anywhere else, even without generations of local history behind it.

A consultation is a brief conversation, by video or phone call as preferred, where anything can be asked in order to feel confident this is the right fit, with nothing decided in advance. A first session is where care itself actually begins: history is gathered at whatever pace it comes, and a treatment plan starts to take shape from there. Alafiora™ works with individuals 16 and older, with a guardian co-signature required for clients age 16 and 17.

Common Questions About Therapy in Castle Pines

Castle Pines Psychologist FAQ: Love Addiction, Sex Addiction & Sexual Trauma Treatment

Is there a psychologist for Castle Pines and Lone Tree who treats love obsession, sex addiction, and sexual trauma together, not as separate concerns?

Yes, and this is the practice's actual structure, not a marketing description. Dr. Lapite-Garrett treats love obsession and love addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma as one interconnected system, since for most clients who bring any one of these three to treatment, the other two are somewhere nearby, whether or not the connection has already been named.

Does Alafiora™ see clients in Castle Pines or Lone Tree in person, or only by video?

Only by video. Dr. Lapite-Garrett is licensed in Colorado under a credential with an active, telehealth-only status, which authorizes telehealth care to Colorado residents but does not permit a Colorado office or in-person services anywhere in the state. A session runs on a HIPAA-compliant platform from wherever a client is physically located in Colorado at the time.

We moved here recently and don't have a local therapist network to draw from. Is that a problem?

It's actually one of the more common reasons clients in this specific community find Alafiora™ in the first place. Since care is entirely virtual and reaches anywhere in Colorado, there's no need for an established local referral, no waitlist tied to a specific practice's local reputation, and no requirement to already know someone who knows someone.

What kind of therapy does Alafiora™ provide for residents of Castle Pines, Lone Tree, and the surrounding communities?

Alafiora™ provides psychotherapy, held entirely by video for Colorado residents, addressing love obsession, compulsive sexual behavior, and sexual trauma as one connected system. Clients are individuals 16 and older, worked with by a single licensed psychologist with no rotating clinical team, throughout Castle Pines, Lone Tree, Highlands Ranch, Castle Rock, and Parker.

Is it too late to reach out if this has already cost me a marriage, a career, or my footing in a new community?

No, it is not too late, and starting over in an unfamiliar place while carrying something like this privately is one of the more common reasons people in this specific community actually reach out, not a reason to have waited longer. A pattern that has already cost something real is not past the point of being treated; the cost is often what finally makes it visible enough to address directly.

Does Alafiora™ bill insurance in Colorado, or is this a private-pay practice?

Castle Pines and Lone Tree sessions are private pay, sometimes called direct pay or out-of-pocket, and Alafiora™ bills no insurance for any of them. A superbill for potential out-of-network reimbursement is available on request, and current rates and session formats sit on the Rates and Fees page. Paying privately keeps the record narrow: no diagnosis or treatment plan goes to an insurer, and nobody outside the room decides how many sessions are appropriate or how long they run, unless the client authorizes a release of information themselves.

Begin a Confidential Conversation

A consultation is confidential, bound by the same professional limits any licensed psychologist discloses before treatment starts, and it is not where a compulsion or a fixation gets put on trial. The only question on the table is what the client actually wants help with. What that usually turns out to mean, for most people in this position, is something ordinary: a football game, a Monday morning, a school event with nothing in it anyone would need explained afterward. Anyone already certain of that can bypass the consultation and begin with a first session instead.

A closer look at how a demanding, highly visible professional life intersects with a private struggle is on Leaders and Executives. This page holds up well as a bookmark, and the footer's QR code carries the same information for later.